Pleasure is paramount to both of you when it comes to sex. But there’s always a better way to increase your pleasure and make sex better for both of you. It is important to realise that he has some needs you can fulfil for a passionate sex life – and you may not even have thought of them! Male stimulation seems pretty easy, but some men are not even aware of what they’re missing. Read on for Durex’s tips on pleasing your partner and add more zing to the bedroom. But these tips are not a one-approach-fits-all solution: each person is different, so a frank discussion with your partner before you introduce anything new to sex can lead you to finding out what he likes, dislikes and loves.
Visual – It’s no secret that men heighten their sexual arousal through sight. But it’s a myth that women are not visually aroused as well. Both sexes benefit from watching the action as it unfolds. You can start by introducing new positions and ‘putting on a show’ to really set him off. Try having sex near or in front of a mirror to add another dimension to your sex life. You’ll be able to look each other’s eyes in any position, and you’ll also be able to see everything that happens. This will help you to feel comfortable and confident, so if you don’t like it or if things are going too far, don’t step out of your comfort zone.
Physical – Every man has areas of stimulus, and what one man loves may not be to another man’s liking. Some like their ear lobes licked and even lightly bit, some may love the feel of the thumb or finger on the perineum. There are some surprising erogenous places, such as below the Adam’s apple, or along the ribs. Caress him, touch him in places that you would normally not touch and you are sure to find an area of intense sensitivity that will electrify him. These places will reveal themselves to you over time, but the important thing is to engage with him during sex.
Verbal – Good communication leads to great sex, and you will know that he’s liking what you do when he’s making sounds. He will moan, groan, sigh or even talk loudly, so let him know you’re enjoying hearing him get pleasured – this will free him of any inhibitions. It will improve your mood and help you really get into the act as well.
With all that advice in mind, here are some positions you should try (if you haven’t already):
Cowgirl – This is the ‘Girl on top’. It gives him a great view of your body and what you’re doing to him. You control the speed and depth of penetration. Plus, you can lean back to add a little more tension.
Reverse cowgirl – This position is a little more advanced, with you facing away from your partner.
Just blow his mind once and you’ll discover another surprising thing about him – he’ll be really eager to return the favour!